I was reminded of this book title the other day:
How often do we, as followers of God, feel alone on a long and difficult journey?
I think I feel that very keenly.
In my time as a Christian, I have met many wonderful people, some of whom are around still, and some of whom are only recently arrived, and all are such a blessing, but some of whom turned out to be cursed and brought all their difficulties into my life, marring what I was so desperate to keep clean for my own (newly-won) safety.
I was thinking the other day of friendships, and how we need to exercise some caution when opening our hearts, homes and lives to new people. This isn’t to sound paranoid, just that new friends don’t come with a card from the re-homing shelter saying ‘hates other dogs’ or anything else so helpful. They come in sometimes with secret bags of very dirty laundry which smells and you don’t realise until piece by piece they are washing that laundry in your friendship, creating waves of drama you didn’t expect. Sometimes it’s too much. Sometimes it’s simple, exhilarating, refreshing and wonderful. Sometimes you actually get to help, or at least support, but when do you stop if you can’t, and how do you extricate yourself from the bonds that get created during the ‘honeymoon’ of shared connections and shared dreams?
This is a question I haven’t yet got answers to. I do know that cursed individuals in your life can act like a foot in the door to everything you’ve been trying to keep closed and out – allowing in demonic activity in areas you thought you’d got fixed.
For me it’s always financial – I can tell when I have someone cursed in my circle of friends. My income will drop significantly, and stay down if I don’t act. This isn’t just about frienships either – I once got involved in a business I thought had great potential, and very quickly things began to go wrong. I noticed the drop in my income, and called the guy up. I told him frankly that I suspected he had a curse on him, and could I help?
He told me he believed that if he had the golden egg, that on the way to sell it he’d drop it and break it. If he had a golden egg the bottom of the market for golden eggs would drop out before he could sell it, making it worthless. This was his experience in life.
He told me that he’d been about to go into business with a man who died suddenly just before the paperwork was signed for their venture. His luck – if you want to call it that – was appalling.
I offered to help, and I never heard from him again.
My income went back up.
So how do we know, and how do we deal with other people’s curses? If you’re within a church, I hope that church is involved in deliverance ministry (unlikely in the UK), because then you have back up to help the person you know needs that help. Deliverance, however, without acknowledging the sins (and even the sins of the fathers) that brought it on is to fail to deal with it fully. If the curse is not dealt with, you have to find a way to break away from what is ultimately a fruitless relationship.
No-one wants to be that friend – the one who turns their back. No-one. We all want to rescue those we see in peril. We want to ensure they get saved, get clear, stay clear. But some people are under a strong delusion sent by God. Nothing you do will change that. If you stay and try to help, you will be harmed, and you may even risk God’s wrath.
Can anyone help me out here with some bible verses which talk about this issue? This isn’t an issue of being unequally yoked in many respects, some of these folks are church-going Christians – they just simply don’t recognise the need to deal with their past, often because they are under the impression that once you are saved/baptised/in the body of Christ, that somehow you are made clean. That is not from the mouth of Yeshua, who taught the LAW! The law tells you what sin is, and you must repent of that sin. That we have grace is true, but to say grace covers all sin without acknowledgement and repentence of that sin is naive and unscriptural.
So the journey we have, when we know this, can be quite lonely, and quite painful – leaving behind those who can’t be around us without harming our walk. I don’t think this is true for all Christians – I believe that some Christians are made of a special kind of stuff and can help the lost more effectively – but not in relationship with them, in counselling them. I know that I am quite easily influenced, and so I tend to stay away from those who want to mould me – whether they are a typical bad indfluence, offering booze and swearing, or whether they are Christians with a particular colour of doctrine which I don’t accept – there is always the desire to ‘fit in’ and please our friends! I have to remember to please God!
No conclusions here – no answers, just a painful moment of recognition that walking with God can be a lonely place.
God Bless you