The redeemable assholes of Hollywood – why women fall for narcissists

I get very tired of the Hollywood schtick. I watched this movie on YouTube a while back, and in it we are confronted with the usual unpleasant character (these are almost always men (in the films I watch, anyway)), and this guy, played by Michael Douglas,  turns out in the end to be a good guy.

How many times have I seen the very same unpleasant, self-centred characters redeemed by love, by persistence, by calling them out on their bullsh*t, and, oh yeah, more love.

The redeemable asshole is one of Hollywood’s greatest weapons against good, sweet-natured women. Against, in fact, the kindest women.

Why?

Because most men who behave like assholes in real life, are actually assholes. They are actually narcissistic pigs. In fact it’s amazing to me that there aren’t any examples I can think of narcissistic female roles in Hollywood where the anti-heroine is won over by a kind-hearted sweet man. The closest I can think of is ‘The Proposal’ because the main female character really is a bitch in that, yet somehow is redeemed by the end.

You will note it is always ‘life’ that has made the Hollywood asshole the way they are, and just a bit more love can sort them out.

Yet people – that is women, men, children of narcissists have to make the decision every day to leave, for good, husbands, wives and parents who have shown themselves not to be redeemable – that more love couldn’t change an evil intentioned husband into an angel.

Narcissism doesn’t resolve with more love. It ‘resolves’ for want of a better term, with ‘no contact’ or ‘low contact’ – yet Hollywood would tell you to expose yourself, your life, your children, to monstrous people because your love can ‘redeem’ them, and turn them into soft-hearted, kind-intentioned people.

Real life isn’t like Hollywood.

God Bless you

Lis

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